Interesting thoughts

I was reading another stepmom blog today and noticed a poll.. Has your husband forgiven his ex wife? I voted yes. I was one of three who voted yes.. the majority (about 15, I think) voted no. Perhaps that's the issue? Hmmmm.. I have to say that if my husband hadn't forgiven his ex by now, after almost 20 years of being apart and 11 years of life with me, I'd be hurt. I've always thought it a little odd that I'd rather have them be 'friends'. The fighting, the power struggles, the tears and anger, have always been much more intimidating as a second wife. Too much emotion involved between two people who 'can't stand each other'. I guess it's a fine line. I'm glad he's forgiven her - it means he's also let go of his emotional ties to her. As a second wife, stepmom first and now a mommy myself, I have to say that I think we fellow stepmoms, at times, need to put things into perspective. Perhaps not believe everything we're told, second hand, by the men we love. They too can be emotionally involved (although they like to claim they're not) and perceive things a tad differently than the original intent. One more thing.. the need to vent subsides with the unwillingness to continue to vent. *wink wink* And then you feel better. Just a little ramble.